AMA

(against medical advice)

DH and I are officially trying to conceive again! The doctors said not to. I'm remembering that's advice, not an order. I'm not on any medication that would be bad for the baby if I got pregnant, so if the MRI results are bad and I'm pregnant, they'll just have to wait to fix it. I already had the MRI so that's not a concern either. My follow up is next Friday, I'll find out what's wrong for sure then. Hopefully it's nothing bad because if I get my way, they won't be able to do surgery on me for at least 9 months. :-)

My MIL asks too many questions. Back on Easter Sunday, we had the following conversation:
MIL: "My friend was just telling me yesterday how much fun having a grandbaby is! I commented on how I'll be able to experience that here soon, and she got all surprised and if you were pregnant. I told her no, you'll know when they are, that's for sure, they're just in that stage of life so I'm sure it will be soon."
I took 2 things from this statement: 1) I'd better not tell my mother in law that I'm expecting until I'm okay with the world knowing because her best friend will know "for sure" and 2) my MIL assumes way too much about my sex life and my plans for reproduction.
I replied quite nicely (and vaguely) with this statement:
"Oh my mom has been making comments about how we should have kids recently. I told her she would just have to wait until we're ready."
My mom hadn't been making comments. She didn't start that for like another month... Sigh. I just wanted a way of saying "you just have to wait" without saying "you just have to wait". I thought it worked.
Apparently there is something about your 2 year wedding anniversary- I guess if you haven't popped one out by then, you're behind on the stages of life. My bad, I didn't know that rule. MIL started making baby comments 6 months before our anniversary. My mom is a patient woman, she waited til 5 months before our anniversary to tell me she'd "done the math" and she was going to be old when her grand kid graduates high school. (hadn't thought of that mom! We were going to wait, but by golly we wouldn't want you in a wheelchair in the pictures of junior's high school graduation party so we'll get right on that for you...)
That worked, for awhile.... DH visited his mom this week without me, so that gave her the perfect opportunity to ask him the hard questions since she already knew I wasn't going to talk. She tried the same tactic: everyone is asking when you're going to have a baby. DH just laughed. Too non-committal. So she point blank asked- "you didn't answer, does that mean you're trying?"
How about this for an answer: "No! I didn't answer because it's not something we want people to know!" DH went for the more polite option and told her the truth: we weren't supposed to get pregnant while they didn't know what was wrong with my neck. (hey, it was true at the time.)
It frustrates me when people pry. I'll tell you when I'm pregnant. If I don't, you'll figure it out after like 5 months. ;-) if you ask questions and I shrug them off, it's because I don't want to answer. K, thanks.